My daughter waited until she was 16 and informed me of her decision. As long as she's been able to understand we've talked about it, the possibilities, and why I thought she should wait until she's older. Of course, that didn't happen, but now that we are over that hump (no pun intended), she is more aware than ever of the responsibility. They are taking precautions and as much as I don't like it, at least they are thinking in the right direction. She knows I'm against it, and she knows she better never bring that into my house, but she knows I'm here for her. She's a smart kid, doesn't drink or do drugs, always in by curfew etc. She's brave as well, and it could be worse... I suppose, but I'm always worried about that one time. I did cry when she first told me, hard to think about that beautiful little girl with the curls trying to handle adult issues, but all I can do is be there for her & educate her as much as I can!
On the other hand, the boys father is allowing them to "get together" at his place which I don't agree with. Why make it easy? Is that the difference between having a boy & a girl? I've told her of my concerns and what I don't agree with, but hey, she's gonna do it anyway. At least she's got a better relationship with me as her mother than I ever did with my mother at that age.
So to answer the question....No I don't want her to be sexually active, but short of locking her in her room & going out with her all the time, not much I can do about it now!
SK